Don’t worry, you’re not the only one that has Googled “Stop caring about others quotes” or “How do I stop caring about what others think of me”. From social media to self-deprecating jokes to having unrealistic standards, we are bound to care about what others have to say about us and our life.
I’m not talking about constructive criticism or getting called out for something wrong you did. I’m talking about those unsolicited advices and suggestions thrown at you every time you try to start something new.
Or that one friend who “doesn’t mean to be rude” but doesn’t approve your life decisions and has a problem with everything you do.
You can actually do anything. Once you let go of the restrains you put on yourself, you’re free. Being comfortable in your skin. Not everybody is out there to get you.
The obsession with “what others think of me” has to stop. In this post, you will learn exactly how to stop worrying about others and focus on yourself.
7 Tips To Stop Caring About What Others Think
1. Be Comfortable Being Alone
If you’ve read any of my posts before, you know how much I value being alone. I’m not saying never talk to people or avoid interactions at all costs.
All I’m saying is that, take some time out to self-reflect and know who you are, what you like about yourself, etc. before somebody else tells you that.
Once you know a little about yourself and like who you are, the chances of seeking external validation is less.
Now that you know people don’t really have an idea of who you are, you will stop caring about what others think of you. This takes time though.
2. Stop Seeking Approval
You are giving so many people power without even realizing it. Stop depending your life on other people’s opinions.
How does it matter if someone doesn’t like your new art even though you like it a lot? Why do you have to ask someone what they think of you joining the drama club or something?
Take control of your life and live it on your terms. Start that channel or blog or course or anything. You may never get a chance again.
3. Don’t Be A People’s Pleaser
Learning to say “no” is very important. You don’t owe people anything for the most part.
Saying yes to everything people ask you to do even though you don’t want to will not make them value you more.
Having self-respect and knowing your boundaries will make you not want to settle for less.
Also, if your “friends” do not care about your boundaries and want you to do it anyway, you need to rethink your friendship 🙂
4. Not Everybody Will Like You
You don’t even like everybody then why do you expect everybody to like? Makes sense right?
Not everybody has to like you or what you say and that’s fine. As long as you are not really harming anyone, how does it matter? Having two to four people who actually care is more than enough.
Knowing the difference between criticism and straight up hate is easy. So, focus on the former.
5. Life Is Short
Life is short is exactly why you should stop caring of what others have to say about you.
This is an extension of the previous point. You have so much to accomplish that there’s actually no time to think what others think.
Not starting something because of this whole fear of what others think of you is unnecessary.
This way you will never do what you want to. Think of some of the things you cared way too much about in like 2nd grade. Does it matter anymore?
The best way to distract yourself and feel like you have it together, listen to hip-hop, rock, rap, etc. You better lose yourself in music 🙂 Leave a comment down below if you got it 😉
6. Change Your Inner Monologue
In this era where self-deprecating jokes are a trend, it is hard to not make some. But as it is obvious that “we are what we think”, these jokes need to be stopped.
Self-deprecating jokes are so in trend that we do them sub-consciously without thinking twice. And the truth is that, the more you tell yourself this, the more you start to believe in them.
Some say make fun of yourself so that others can’t. But by making these jokes, you are exposing people to a whole another set of insecurities of yours.
So, changing your inner monologue from self-deprecating to something “not so self-deprecating” is helpful.
7. Quit Social Media
Yes, as simple as that! Social media is ruining your life and you know it! Being in denial even though you know social media drains you and is bad for your self-confidence is pointless.
Trust me, you won’t regret missing out on some latest memes or trends at the cost of your mental health! I have some tips on How to break the loop of constantly checking your phone if you want to read.
Notice your feelings when you go on social media and get rid of everything that bothers you immediately. Be it some influencer or that random friend you don’t know about.
If you have to overthink every time you post or share something, you need to take a step back and think. Set a time limit, unfollow people or deactivate your account. You can always come back when you feel better.
These were some of my tips on what to do when you want to stop caring about what others think of you.
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